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DC Wedding Planning: How To Choose Your Wedding Party

If you're engaged and wondering how to choose your wedding party, today's Tips Tuesday post is just for you!

Photo: Christopher Jason Studios

Photo: Christopher Jason Studios

Now that you've got the ring, hired your planner and picked out your venue, you're likely turning your attention to picking your wedding party. You also might be stumped on this task and find yourself in one of the following categories:

  1. Before you got engaged, you had ideas of who your future wedding party would be, but now you're reevaluating to be sure

  2. You have so many friends and aren't sure how to pick who's in or out of the wedding party

  3. Your fiancé has more friends than you, or vice versa, and you aren't sure if it's best to have an unbalanced number on each side or alternatively if you should add more people on your side so that it is balanced

  4. You have just a few quality close friends, so you're not sure if a wedding party is even necessary

  5. You have no plans to have a wedding party

Whether you're in any of the above categories or more, today I'm breaking down some tried and true tips to consider before you select your wedding party. Additionally, for those in category 5 above, I've had many couples opt out of having a wedding party and it worked out beautifully for them. In that case, it's almost as if all the guests are your wedding party and the ceremony focus is all on you.

Now, for those of you who totally want your girls and/or guys right by your side, I suggest the following 5 tips.

Photo: Christopher Jason Studios

Photo: Christopher Jason Studios

  1. Think Quality over Quantity - Regardless of whether your fiancé has more friends than you or whether someone told you 5 was the magic number of bridesmaids to have, when it comes to your wedding party it's about quality and not a specific number. Ideal wedding party members are those who have your back, wholeheartedly support your union, are reliable, positive and always great to be around. Now if there are tons of friends/family who fit this category for you, it doesn't mean all 20 of them have to stand with you at the altar. I recommend sitting down with your fiancé and discussing the potential wedding party members you're considering, and get feedback from each other on who is essential for the role.

  2. Consider the Responsibilities - When someone accepts your invitation to be in your wedding party, they are essentially signing up to: be one of your bridal besties; stand in support of your union; help with some personal tasks you may need that are not handled by your wedding planner; buy their dress, shoes, and jewelry for the big day; pay for makeup and hair (if it's not gifted by you); help plan and attend your bridal shower and bachelorette party; show up on time for rehearsal, the wedding and other activities; and be a vital member in your bride tribe. While it's a fun job, for some that can be a big job or something they can't commit to due to other things going on in their life. Think long and hard about who would be all in or alternatively a headache, not able to commit, or unreliable.

  3. Choose from the Heart - Go with your gut and your heart when selecting your wedding party - NOT out of obligation. Just because someone has been your friend for years or because you were in their wedding party, doesn't mean you have to select them to be in your wedding party. Remember, just because someone isn't in your wedding party, doesn't mean they aren't very special to you.

  4. Children are optional - Nothing is cuter than a little flower girl and ring bearer! However, those roles aren't essential for every wedding. Perhaps you don't have children, nieces, nephews or godchildren to fill the role or maybe you don't want any kids at the wedding at all - that's totally ok. Alternatively, if you do want children in your wedding party, my suggestion is to choose children who will happily go down the aisle. On the flip-side, if they cry uncontrollably on day of, don't force them to walk down the aisle.

  5. Consider Other Roles - There are so many ways to celebrate your engagement journey with family and friends, so don't feel bad about not selecting everyone to be in your wedding party. For very close friends and family not in your wedding party, some other great ways to acknowledge them and roles they can fill are :

    • Reserved seat at the ceremony - this is a great option for aunts, uncles and first cousins

    • Ushers and Hostesses - these are other great roles to fill for the ceremony

    • Bridal Shower and/or Bachelorette Party Hosting - the wedding party doesn't necessarily have to host your pre-wedding celebrations, so if close family and friends volunteer to host and you love their knack for entertaining, let them throw your shindigs!

    • Bridal Gown Shopping - if you have a couple fashionista friends and family whose opinion means a lot to you and they are super positive and helpful, those are great folks to join you for your gown shopping

    • Have them wear a specific color - this is a great option for sorority sisters or fraternity brothers who'll be attending the wedding, and makes for a great picture at the reception

Photo: Christopher Jason Studios

Photo: Christopher Jason Studios

A final thought I'd like to share for those who may struggle with people pleasing is something I tell couples all the time - "it's your day, so do what feels right for you two and you two alone". Never feel obligated or pressured to go out of your way to include family and friends in certain roles for the wedding, as that shouldn't be the sole indicator of how close you are or aren't to someone. Those who truly love you will be honored to simply attend and celebrate your nuptials, with no strings attached.

I hope you found these tips to be super helpful, and that you're better equipped to pick your I DO crew. Now let's chat in the comments - share some other tips you'd add to the list or questions you may have surrounding this topic. I'd love to connect with you!

Sensationally yours,

Shalyce

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Meet Knot The Guy

Happy Wedding Wednesday! 

One key component of a sensational wedding or soiree is amazing vendors. When I learned of local D.C. area company, Knot the Guy, I knew they would be a great resource for my sensational grooms and clients. After all, us ladies can't be the only ones who get the spotlight, right?! Well, Knot the Guy ensures that guys are picture perfect for their wedding day and more. I recently began working with Evan Marbury, owner of the company, for one of my upcoming sensational weddings, and had the pleasure of chatting with him about his men's styling concierge business. Check out what Evan has to say about Knot the Guy and how they can tie the perfect knot and make your event experience all the more sensational!

Photo Credit: Photo from the Harty

Photo Credit: Photo from the Harty

I absolutely LOVE your business concept! What inspired you to start Knot the Guy?

Evan: Traditionally, the bride receives all of the attention on the wedding day. While appropriate, this often leaves the groom and groomsmen on their own with the hopes that one of them knows how to tie that perfect knot or they will be able to follow a YouTube tutorial. We want to change this.

A men's style concierge service is such a special treat for grooms, as well as groomsmen. What specific services do you offer for weddings?

Evan: Our trained stylists offer a unique experience, second to none. We specialize in tying the perfect knots; be it a Bow Tie, Full Windsor, or something more creative, Knot the Guy will deliver! Studs and cuff links can be tricky, but don’t worry, we’ve got you covered. Pressing services and shoe shines are also available to complete the look and ensure our clients look their best on their most important day of the year. Additional services such as haircuts and shaves are also available. We also have great partnerships that allow us to assist the groom from day one. We can now currate their look for the wedding and get them there tuxedo or suit directly from one of our partners.

Photo Credit: Photo from the Harty

Photo Credit: Photo from the Harty

One of my brides was thoughtful enough to gift her groom your services! How can other brides do the same?

Evan: Anyone that would like to gift our services to someone else would go to our site and send us an inquiry. We would then respond with a quote for their exact request.

Aside from providing services for weddings, what other types of events do you cater to?

Evan: We assist for any major event. Balls, Galas, Proms, Homecoming, Corporate Events, Bar-Mitzvahs.

How far in advance should a client book you?

Evan: We recommend booking us at least 3 months in advance.

Photo Credit: Danielle Real Photography

Photo Credit: Danielle Real Photography

Overall, what can a client expect when working with Knot the Guy?

Evan: Knot the Guy offers wardrobe styling and preparation assistance for individuals or groups for any event. We work with each of our clients as we personalize solutions for your unique fashion and event needs. Knot the Guy guarantees professional, discreet, courteous, and efficient service. In other words we show up, make you look good, bring whiskey, and leave.

Photo Credit: Danielle Real Photography

Photo Credit: Danielle Real Photography

I'm so excited to see how Knot the Guy steps in for one of our grooms and his groomsmen this October. To learn more about Knot the Guy and secure their services for your next event check them out at the following: Web: www.knottheguy.com | IG: knottheguy | Facebook: Knot the Guy | Email: evanlee@knottheguy.com | Phone (240) 793-2135.

Sensationally yours,

Shalyce

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